“What do I do with my hands?”
Believe it or not, this is a common question and fear for public speakers and actors alike, and one I address in this video.
Here’s the answer: If your focus while you’re communicating is on what to do with your hands, redirect your attention.
You have a few options— redirect it to your content, to the feeling of the floor beneath your feet or the surface supporting you, to the person/people you’re talking to and what you want them to think/feel/do as a result of what you are saying— really anything other than “what should I do with my hands?”
Here’s why: when we are engaged in the act of communicating, our body language, including our hand gestures, will organically engage and become congruent with our intention. But if we try to “do” something with our hands, the result usually ends up looking awkward or forced and can make us feel even more self conscious as we become less engaged in connecting with the audience because we’re too busy focusing on the hands.
So If you want your hands to engage, engage the rest of yourself in the communication act by directing your attention more strategically, and the hands will come along for the ride.
Give it a try— let me know how it goes! If you found this video useful, please share it and consider subscribing to my YouTube channel.